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Be A “YES!”

by Jill Tucker, LPC-S

Be a “YES!”

The first time I heard this, I was instantly skeptical.  I was more of a “No“, than a “YES.” 

I was more closed than open. 

More pessimistic than optimistic.

Throughout my teacher training at BIG Power Yoga, I was told to be a “YES.” 

I was also told the answer to how is YES! 

That one took a second to wrap my head around.  How is YES? 

A friend of mine gave the example of at work, if someone asked him how to use the fax machine, and he responded with “YES!”  Can you imagine?  HA!  My guess is you would get a lot of quizzical looks and potentially annoyed co-workers.  And maybe a few would actually get it.

I grew up in a pretty traditional household with a stay at home mom and a full time, hard-working dad.

Don’t get me wrong, my momma worked hard, too.  Her paycheck just came in the form of lots of love and the flexibility to cart us around everywhere we needed to go.

One of her very important roles was that of the sandwich-maker.

I can’t tell you why, but sandwiches made by my mom still taste better than the ones I make myself.

It must be all the extra love crammed in there.  Anywho, all this to say that my dad when asked if he wanted ham or turkey, would say YES!

Not “Both”, or “hmm… I’m not sure.”  Just a plain and simple, and immediate, “YES.”

And so it was…a ham, turkey and cheese sandwich.

Sometimes we walk around assuming we can’t have it all, we can’t be satisfied, ask for what we want, or that we have to deprive ourselves in some ways. 

In reality, we can choose to be a YES for the things we value and prioritize in our lives…including having ham AND turkey on our sandwiches if that’s what we want to be a YES for.

A few years ago, Jessica asked when I would be ready to leave my job at a non-profit to join her in private practice.  I said yes to financial stability and certainty and stayed at my non-profit job for two more years.

That means I had to say no…aka not right now in this case…to private practice.

Sometimes being a yes means saying no.  And sometimes this means being a NO.  Sometimes being a yes for my marriage means being a no for other social opportunities.

Sometimes being a yes for my business with Jessica means being a no for other cool opportunities that may come along.

Sometimes being a yes for loving my life and carving out time for personal connections and self-care means saying NO to seeing clients on Saturdays, as much as people ask and ask and hope for a YES.

When I find myself saying NO, being a NO, I know it’s time to take a look at what’s going on with me.

If I wake up on the wrong side of the bed, if there’s a full moon, if my day isnt’ going as planned, I might feel like being a no.

It doesn’t mean I have to be though.

Sometimes being a YES involves hitting the pause button, taking stock of what is available to me, and making a decision from the place of pause.  Sometimes that is an ENTIRELY different decision than I would have made from being a no.

Eww.

Being a no just sounds so….no.  So final.

So negative.

So unhappy.

So I choose YES.

Even when I’m saying no.  If you say no, are acting as a no, what are you being a yes for?  What are you striving for?  What are you committed to?

More important than saying no is what you are a yes for.

When I find myself saying NO, being a NO, I know it’s time to take a look at what’s going on with me.

If I wake up on the wrong side of the bed, if there’s a full moon, if my day isnt’ going as planned, I might feel like being a no.

It doesn’t mean I have to be though.

Sometimes being a YES involves hitting the pause button, taking stock of what is available to me, and making a decision from the place of pause.  Sometimes that is an ENTIRELY different decision than I would have made from being a no.

Eww.

Being a no just sounds so….no.  So final.

So negative.

So unhappy.

So I choose YES.

Even when I’m saying no.  If you say no, are acting as a no, what are you being a yes for?  What are you striving for?  What are you committed to?

Take Action!

In writing this little post, I started to take an inventory of things I know I am a YES for at this moment of my life:

  • Snuggling my puppy
  • Growing my business
  • Starting a family
  • Empowering young women
  • Practicing yoga and taking care of my physical health
  • Maintaining a loving connection with my husband
  • Loving my job
  • Being of service to others
  • Loving my life
  • Incorporating FUN into my life

Where do you need to be more of a YES in your life?  What are you already a YES for?  Be a YES!

Jill Tucker

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